Who Said You Have to Sit Still to Meditate?

Does the thought of sitting in meditation make you feel jumpy? You are not alone! Hundreds of students that I teach in New York City either have no time in their busy schedules for seated meditation, or some simply don’t have the desire. Yet, don’t discount a meditative practice just because a meditation cushion isn’t involved. There are countless ways to meditate in motion, and attain the numerous benefits associated with meditation, such as improved focus, productivity or performance, clarity, stress-reduction, and relaxation.

Meditation is a state of being, a state of absorption which leads to inner peace, harmonizing our flow to being in the present moment with awareness, and accepting what is, rather than resisting what is not. Meditation is a receptive state. Moving is an active state. So how do meditation and motion, seemingly opposite states, integrate? By keeping the mind focused while performing an activity. Once the mind is focused, it becomes absorbed in the activity itself. If the mind remains ‘still’ in focus, undisturbed by outer distractions and unwanted thoughts, then deep concentration begins to develop and one begins to absorb into the activity itself, focused and present to what arises in each moment as the activity continues. When this state of absorption begins to take place, the brain-waves begin to slow down and so it appears, does time, and one enters a ‘zone’, which often feels like little or no time has passed. When this occurs, one cultivates thoughts from the pre-frontal cortex of the brain, the most evolved part of the brain, and one intuitively picks up more ‘signals’ or ‘signs’ from both inner and outer worlds. The activity itself becomes infused with this focused energy, allowing one to flow in the activity while performing it, creating a beautiful moving meditative state.

Paying attention in the present moment, open to whatever arises, but not distracted by it, may sound much easier than it actually is, and that’s when one’s will, discipline, and determination must enter into the picture. Simply put, it takes practice and a desire to practice. I recall an interview with Tiger Woods and his father, in which Tiger’s father relayed how he trained Tiger to stay focused while golfing, by rattling change in his pockets during many of his upswings, or, by bringing him out to practice in unfavorable weather and field conditions. He bombarded Tiger with innumerable distractions to teach him to focus, to discipline him to pay attention in the present moment, so that he could become absorbed in his activity, and enter a zone in which he performed at his peak. While Tiger might have been more aware of his distractions, he learned how to be unperturbed by them, using discernment to assess how to ‘manage’ his attention and the conditions in the moments before, during and even after his swinging and hitting the ball.

Here’s a four-step process to moving in meditation.

  1. Select an activity. It can be any activity, such as talking to others, cooking, running, gardening, biking, eating, walking, waiting on-line, driving, writing, or working.
  2. Resolve to maintain a relaxed focus while performing the activity. Remain receptive but alert.
  3. Remain open and neutral to whatever arises. Rather than judge or indulge in your thoughts, beliefs, or outer stimuli, which may avert or attract your attention.
  4. When necessary, use discernment, sharper perceptive abilities, or as we yogis like to say,
    ‘wisdom’, while performing the activity.
    Discernment takes practice as one must cultivate a neutral perspective (aversions or attractions prohibited) to the information coming in, in order remain focused, and respond with wisdom or discernment, not judgment, praise, or criticism.

You know you are moving in meditation, if time has escaped you, or you’ve entered a ‘zone’, or you’ve maximized an aspect of or the experience of your activity. Sometimes, the senses, which are normally withdrawn for meditation, become heightened when you are moving in meditation, making colors, dimensions, sounds, visions, or smells seem more profound or ‘alive’. Move in meditation and increase your ability to flow and vibrate in harmony with yourself, your surroundings, the activity and even aspects of your life. Namaste.

4 Steps to Mental Detox, A Spring Cleaning

When it comes to Springtime, my friends and I like to clean out the closets and get a fresh perspective on fashion trends; what is ‘in’ and what is ‘out’.  It is the same with your mind, time to get a fresh perspective on what’s in and what needs to go out.

Here are some tips that I recently gave to over 20 editors at Cosmo magazine:

  1.  Step 1: Close the eyes and look inside your mind.   Just watch for 1 or 2 minutes, a couple of times a day, and watch the circus of thoughts within.  Don’t judge it.  Just what rolls out and let it roll.
  2.  Step 2:  Now, this is the tricky part, take another 1 or 2 minutes and practice letting the thoughts go.  Use the awareness of your breath as it moves in and out of your nostrils, chest or belly as an anchor and keep bringing your attention to the breath after you’ve discarded the thoughts.  If you get caught up in a loop, and you notice that you are in a loop.  Let it go, watch the breath.  You might even mentally repeat, inhale, “Let” and exhale “Go”.
  3. Step 3: Bring some freshness into your mind, as you would if you were buying a new outfit, and create loving kind thoughts.  Close your eyes and see an image of 1.) a family member you love, 2.) a friend you trust and 3.) a co-worker or neighbor.  Imagine their expressions and energy as they receive these words while you mentally tell them in your  mindspace, “May you be happy.  May you be healthy.  May you feel safe.  May you feel at ease.” Fill your mind with good stuff, and you will emanate that same good stuff.
  4.  Step 4:  Keep eyes closed and set an intention this phase of your life, such as, “I am patient with my boss”, ” I am more mindful when eating,” or “I meditate 3 times a week for 5 minutes,” or  “I exercise for stress.”

Keep your vibrant with fresh colorful thoughts, just like your closet, unless you’re a New Yorker, than the closet has a lot of interesting shades of black.  lol.

Shocking or Not?: The Percentage of Men Who Chose to Shock Themselves Than Be Alone with Thoughts

When broken down over 11 studies, sixty-seven percent of men pressed a button to shock themselves when put alone in a room with nothing but their thoughts.

In comparison, just twenty-five percent of women pressed the same button under the same conditions.

Entitled,  “Just think: The challenges of the disengaged mind”, in Science Magazine, July 2014, researchers concluded that,

In 11 studies, we found that participants typically did not enjoy spending 6 to 15 minutes in a room by themselves with nothing to do but think, that they enjoyed doing mundane external activities much more, and that many preferred to administer electric shocks to themselves instead of being left alone with their thoughts. Most people seem to prefer to be doing something rather than nothing, even if that something is negative.

Are you shocked?

 

A Wandering Mind is not a Happy Mind

Harvard Happiness Experts, Dan Gilbert and Matthew Killingsworth conducted experiments and found,

People spend 46.9 percent of their waking hours thinking about something other than what they’re doing, and this mind-wandering typically makes them unhappy… “Mind-wandering is an excellent predictor of people’s happiness,” Killingsworth says. “In fact, how often our minds leave the present and where they tend to go is a better predictor of our happiness than the activities in which we are engaged.”… Time-lag analyses conducted by the researchers suggested that their subjects’ mind-wandering was generally the cause, not the consequence, of their unhappiness.

Do you have a wandering mind?

Try training your attention on your breath as it moves in and out of your nostrils for one minute.  When your mind wanders, bring it back to your breath at the nostrils.   The more you train your mind to stay present with the breath, the less your mind wanders!