Stress-Can You Relate?

Stress, according to Eastern philosopher and yogi, Swami Satyananda Swaraswati, can be defined in the following formula:

Stress=the number of stressful situations/ability to cope

Formulaically speaking, one can either, reduce the number of stressful situations, which requires some lifestyle changes or one can increase the ability to cope, to reduce stress.

In order to be able to manage one’s emotions and stress, an understanding of how stress affects the physical body is pivotal to its management.

When a negative or limiting thought enters the mind, the brain matches a chemical to the emotion experienced.  For example, if one believes that there is never enough time in the day, this thought produces an emotion, perhaps anxiety, and produces a threat to subjective well-being. Once the brain identifies a situation to be a threat or a danger (whether objective or subjective), the hypothalamus of the brain signals the pituitary gland, which signals the production of cortisol.

Cortisol is an important stressor response when the there is an actual danger because it increases blood sugar and blood pressure, to help escape the danger.   However, when there is no actual threat, but a ‘perceived’ threat, the brain creates a neural and nervous system response.  If the stress is perceived repeatedly, the firing neurons wire together in the brain to create a neural pathway that trigger anytime a similar situation is perceived, whether it be based in reality or not. Once a neural pathway is wired, it fires in that manner, creating an involuntary autonomic stress response, which over time, wreaks physical and mental havoc.

The body’s stress response transports blood away from the internal organs and out to the limbs to prepare the body for ‘fight’ or ‘flee’.  Blood drains from the frontal portion of the brain, which damages clear thinking and reason.  Overtime, if this response is chronic, then the body’s internal systems begin to malfunction and manifest as disease in the physical and mental bodies.   Raised levels of cortisol for prolonged periods weaken the immune system and the organs, cause cells to mutate or die, kick-start nervous, circulatory and inflammatory responses, and impair memory and cognitive ability. People with chronic stress also suffer from insomnia, depression, anxiety, autoimmune and digestive disorders, migraine and tension headaches, asthma and ulcers.

How one reacts to one’s environment is crucial to managing stress.  Most of us have been conditioned to react to stress based upon past experiences as well as our observing, then absorbing, how those around us reacted to stress.  We then become wired in this way, much without our consent or knowledge until the age of about 7.  In past years, it was believed that these reactions were ‘hard-wired’ by our genes, as were certain diseases thought to be ‘hard-wired’.  However, a relatively new science, ‘epigenetics’ now demonstrates that we are not ‘hard-wired’.  Epigenetics tells us that a majority of a gene is affected by how we react to our environment.  Therefore, if we change or manage the reactions, and our perceptions of events, we can change the genome, our cellular structure, our health and the future.  Epigenetics helps us to understand that we are not powerless over our circumstances and our bodies, and that we can change our reactions, and thereby, our reality.  And quantum physics tells us that infinite possibilities exist, but it depends on the observer’s posturing that affects the perspective and the outcome.

So what does that mean?  It means there are an infinite number of possibilities that can happen in any given moment for you to choose you you react, and thereby affect the outcome of not just the external world, but the internal world as well.

Be open, not limited, in how you manage your stress.  It may very well, save your life.

Stay tuned for more tips on how to manage your stress, and take your power back!

 

 

The Art of Conscious Relaxation-Yoga Nidra

“Nidra” means sleep, but is distinguishable from the “sleep” we know of in the West.  Yoga Nidra is “The Art of Conscious Relaxation”.

True relaxation without an external source prodding us into slower brain waves, has been one of the biggest challenges of our adult stress-filled lives. And what’s more is that most of the “relaxing” activities that our society engages in, don’t actually relax our mind and bodies, but merely stimulate the senses, which counters the intention to relax.

In a society where most individuals become victims or slaves to technology and the “instant-gratification” nation, stress-induced disorders have become epidemic or are on the rise, affecting the health of our people.

Enter center-stage, Yoga Nidra, or ‘psychic sleep’.  ‘Psychic sleep’ is a state between wakefulness and dreams. It means that I, you or anyone else can self-induce our minds and bodies to receive relaxation beyond the active beta wavelengths that most of our brains are drowning in during waking hours. It means that not only can you slow the activity of your brain (inducing alpha, theta or delta wave-states) and mind through relaxing the body, but one can also actually heal present and past emotional, physical or psychological pain trapped in the subconscious and unconscious minds, thought to be more powerful than the conscious mind. It also means that diseases can be cured, the nature of the mind-personality can be re-structured and creative genius restored.

As the physical mediator of consciousness, the brain has a profound effect on one’s body as it links body, mind and emotion into one unit.

In a balanced person, the brain induces a harmonious unification between body, mind and emotion. But in a person who is hyper-active, stimulated or even traumatized, there is no balance between activity and receptivity, leaving an energetic residue or toxins in the body. Yoga nidra affects the brain and its chemical output while calming the nervous system through heightened awareness of the body. Specifically, the progressive movement of awareness of individual body parts, in a systematic manner, not only induces physical relaxation but can also clear all the nerve pathways to the brain. And for many of us, our mind’s manner of thinking and being is a result of childhood and adult conditioning, which tends to emphasize materialism and pleasuring the senses, while negatively impacting our health.

There are also numerous scientific studies showing the benefits of Nidra for pain, insomnia, depression, anxiety, cancer therapy, high blood pressure, aging, diabetes, autoimmune disorders, inflammatory conditions, and much more.

If you’ve never tried Nidra, perhaps today’s the day?  If you are interested in more information, please email me or comment below.  A 45- minute complete practice is also available for purchase under “Digital Meditations”.

Namaste, and have a restful day!

Are You a People Pleaser?

Are you a “People Pleaser”?  If you are, then it is likely that you are living your life according to others’ standards at the cost of your own. Pleasing others is exhausting, and it simply fails as a formula for your true measure or happiness.  How so?  Because others expectations are either changing or dreadfully stuck, and then one is constantly second, third, fourth and fifth-guessing if one has said the right thing, or sent the proper thank you gift, or impressed the ‘right people’.  Pleasing others is setting yourself up as ‘not-so-mighty mouse’ on a treadmill, now called, ‘your life’, with ‘the others’ hand at the wheel.  It’s mental suicide eventually.

Do I sound dramatic?  I hope so, because it is drama.   A whole crowd of people and their words or opinions, mostly authority figures-especially those of our families (generationally as well), government and teachers-live in our minds and have told us from ago zero how to think, react, judge and achieve.   Some of us have been told who is bright and gifted and who is not. Some of us have been told who to marry, and who not to marry.  Some of us have been told which jobs are respectable and which ones aren’t.  Some of us have been told what class or race of people are respectable and which ones are not.  And to gain approval of those authority figures or others who we seek approval from, whether conscious or unconsciously, changes the way we think about ourselves and the choices we make.

It took me many more years before I ever realized how programmed I had become to think, react and judge.  I had not wanted to understand how deeply I had lived my life in fear of not pleasing others, especially my family.   If I chose to please myself, to free myself, I’d have to free myself from a prison of limitations, that were now self-imposed, a life of 40 years, automatic to the conditionings of my life.  It is then that I stood in my heart’s voice and chose to become a yoga instructor.  It is then that I realized how far against the grain I was going and how many people I didn’t please or impress with my choices.  I started to rid myself of the toxic icky guilt, shame or embarrassment I’d felt as a result of those who had knowingly or unknowingly ‘de-valued’ me or my potential.  But their eyes no longer mattered.  I had started looking inward. And, I found a little girl who just loves and wants to be loved, without condition of acceptance or not.   And I’m lovin’ her, have accepted her and allowing her to flourish as she now so chooses.  Because that little girl’s heart has wings attached, and we both want to learn how to fly!

Are you a People Pleaser?  Who do you please and why? And at what cost?