Have no time for ‘space’ in your life?

Where I live, New York City, many don’t have the time to make space.  New Yorkers are working around the clock, either towards something (their children’s futures, entertainment, bigger homes, ski vacations out West, trips abroad) or working to stay away from something (the neighbor they don’t like, the sexist or narcissist boss, the candy store, the skinny jeans or burger joint).  There is hardly time to breathe, we run so fast. We have no space in our schedules.

Why is space so important?  Because, it is in space that our potential to create is heightened.  It is in space, where an intense point of light expanded out, and exploded, making space out of darkness, i.e. The Big Bang. And in the space, where darkness once lie, that point of light created itself into a beautiful, expansive, mysterious, wondrous universe.  If we don’t give ourselves space, we stay stuck in our conscious and nearly conscious mind, where thoughts, 70% of the time, according to some experts, are either repetitive or negative.  If we created space, we could instead move into the subconscious mind, which is where deep belief systems were seeded, systems which go against our nature and our evolution.

Very few of us have the consciousness to really know what is hidden deep within, but without space, there is little chance one ever will.  Once we move out of the small parts of our brain that we often use, away from sensory stimulation, away from constant activity, we can tap into other parts of our brain, the unconscious parts, and see how we’ve actually created the parts of our lives that we don’t want or like.  It doesn’t take much effort, anywhere is fine, just give your mind a time to rest, and watch those backstage thoughts flash center stage.  That’s the subconscious mind.  It will start to reveal what you really think and feel, and you may be surprised to find out what that is!

Our brains are akin to a hard-drive and the beliefs and energy that surrounded us in the past, especially as a young child, is the software that has been ‘downloaded’ to our brains.  Through meditation or ‘watching’ the mind’s subtler thoughts, one is creating the space to be able to start identifying the old beliefs, choices, actions and decisions, the out-of-date-software that has occupied mind and body for years.   Once the internal beliefs wreaking havoc have been identified, a clearing of those beliefs is necessary for evolution. Once internal space is created, you can ‘download’ new software, new beliefs that will assist you in taking full responsibility for your own well-being and creating miracles.  Nothing is created by wishing, action is required.  But, honor the space, because without it, your internal ‘hard-drive’ will undoubtedly crash.

‘It is against New York State Law to Assault Your Bus Driver.’

I arrived, with my full-fare Metrocard, at the new “Select” New York City MTA bus stop near my apartment on Second Avenue in the 80’s.  I held a rather large box with both of my arms and hands, carrying a 52′ ceiling fan to return to Home Depot.   A “Select” bus happened to be at the stop but it’s doors were closed.   It was still at its angled position near the curb to pick up passengers. There was a red light.  About a dozen and a half were on the bus.  I mouthed aloud to the driver my desire to take the bus, but he wouldn’t open the door, and instead mouthed something back to me.  Words came from my mouth again but it’s as if I were at the airport, and the plane doors had shut.  We all know what that means.  No go. The driver wouldn’t open the doors or speak to me intelligibly.  The light turned green.  The bus proceeded down Second Avenue.  I had been “De-Selected”.

I could feel the heat rush into my cheeks.  A perfect moment had just passed.  I couldn’t let go of my anger towards the bus driver as I looked north on Second Avenue to see that there were no other MTA buses yet in sight. Of course, I tried for a few minutes to understand the mentality of it all.

The box was getting heavier and so I placed it down on the sidewalk and sat.   There happened to be a sliver of Sun that was not yet obscured by a high rise building.  I reminded myself of a yogi teaching-nothing is by chance, enjoy the moment as if you asked for it.  So I let the sun fill me with Vitamin D as I felt the cool breeze on my cheeks, sitting atop the box. When the next bus arrived about 10 minutes later, the driver was genial and the bus near-empty.   Heaven.

On my bus ride home, a recorded announcement came on saying (approximately), “It is against New York State Law to Assault Your Bus Driver. Anyone who does will be prosecuted to the fullest extent of the law.” Seriously?  New Yorkers need a reminder not to assault the bus driver? Yes, world, New Yorkers have this much stress. Not many of us can pull up a box and sit in the sun, waiting patiently for the next bus, when we could have had a smooth ride moments before.  So, it seems, the alternative is to ‘whack’ the driver.

Though it may seem trivial, it is not. Mass transit is how most of the millions of New Yorkers commute.  If the commute is not pleasant, millions are affected. Daily.  I always tell my classes, workshops and privates, that we cannot control the others, but we can control ourselves.   Mass transit is not going to change. It’s unionized and unpredictable in service and courteousness, but we don’t have to succumb to the pressures of the commute.  We have choices. Make a choice that fits you.  Sometimes, I focus by counting my breath backward, or, bringing a magazine to read. Now, I bike when I can. When I practiced law, I walked 2 1/2 miles from the office to my apartment.  I come up with alternative ways to make my commute more pleasant, so that I don’t become a reason for the buses’ recorded announcement.

 

 

 

 

Stress-Can You Relate?

Stress, according to Eastern philosopher and yogi, Swami Satyananda Swaraswati, can be defined in the following formula:

Stress=the number of stressful situations/ability to cope

Formulaically speaking, one can either, reduce the number of stressful situations, which requires some lifestyle changes or one can increase the ability to cope, to reduce stress.

In order to be able to manage one’s emotions and stress, an understanding of how stress affects the physical body is pivotal to its management.

When a negative or limiting thought enters the mind, the brain matches a chemical to the emotion experienced.  For example, if one believes that there is never enough time in the day, this thought produces an emotion, perhaps anxiety, and produces a threat to subjective well-being. Once the brain identifies a situation to be a threat or a danger (whether objective or subjective), the hypothalamus of the brain signals the pituitary gland, which signals the production of cortisol.

Cortisol is an important stressor response when the there is an actual danger because it increases blood sugar and blood pressure, to help escape the danger.   However, when there is no actual threat, but a ‘perceived’ threat, the brain creates a neural and nervous system response.  If the stress is perceived repeatedly, the firing neurons wire together in the brain to create a neural pathway that trigger anytime a similar situation is perceived, whether it be based in reality or not. Once a neural pathway is wired, it fires in that manner, creating an involuntary autonomic stress response, which over time, wreaks physical and mental havoc.

The body’s stress response transports blood away from the internal organs and out to the limbs to prepare the body for ‘fight’ or ‘flee’.  Blood drains from the frontal portion of the brain, which damages clear thinking and reason.  Overtime, if this response is chronic, then the body’s internal systems begin to malfunction and manifest as disease in the physical and mental bodies.   Raised levels of cortisol for prolonged periods weaken the immune system and the organs, cause cells to mutate or die, kick-start nervous, circulatory and inflammatory responses, and impair memory and cognitive ability. People with chronic stress also suffer from insomnia, depression, anxiety, autoimmune and digestive disorders, migraine and tension headaches, asthma and ulcers.

How one reacts to one’s environment is crucial to managing stress.  Most of us have been conditioned to react to stress based upon past experiences as well as our observing, then absorbing, how those around us reacted to stress.  We then become wired in this way, much without our consent or knowledge until the age of about 7.  In past years, it was believed that these reactions were ‘hard-wired’ by our genes, as were certain diseases thought to be ‘hard-wired’.  However, a relatively new science, ‘epigenetics’ now demonstrates that we are not ‘hard-wired’.  Epigenetics tells us that a majority of a gene is affected by how we react to our environment.  Therefore, if we change or manage the reactions, and our perceptions of events, we can change the genome, our cellular structure, our health and the future.  Epigenetics helps us to understand that we are not powerless over our circumstances and our bodies, and that we can change our reactions, and thereby, our reality.  And quantum physics tells us that infinite possibilities exist, but it depends on the observer’s posturing that affects the perspective and the outcome.

So what does that mean?  It means there are an infinite number of possibilities that can happen in any given moment for you to choose you you react, and thereby affect the outcome of not just the external world, but the internal world as well.

Be open, not limited, in how you manage your stress.  It may very well, save your life.

Stay tuned for more tips on how to manage your stress, and take your power back!

 

 

Detox Your Mind – Sept 14, NYC

Discover ways to balance your mind during emotional states and explore where yoga, neuroscience and modern psychology converge to provide you with a better understanding of how your brain reacts towards certain beliefs, behaviors and patterns.

Delve into your core beliefs systems to help you gain control over your mind, remove or reduce unhealthy beliefs/thoughts, and to create space for newer, healthier beliefs, behaviors and decisions.

Register here:  Detox your Mind Workshop – Pure Yoga

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